This is now my story.
I am not well. Physically and emotionally. For those who knew me from way back then, you will know that I am an epilepsy survivor and have gone through hell thrice in my life because of clinical depression.
My last seizure was in September around 2020. And I have not relapsed with my depression since 2012.
I have been living a quiet life before all these chaos with my dad’s medical condition.
When my mom got bedridden during her car accident in 2013, I was her primary carer too.
I began to relive those memories of being a caregiver once more.
But there comes a time when the caregiver needs some caring too.
The past 19 days with my dad at the hospital was a figurative hell for me.
I reached my breaking point there.
I was deeply wounded and traumatized with all that’s been going around me – doctors’ instructions and revelations, nurses’ ineptitudes, dad’s stubborness and outbursts, family demands and questions, not eating on time, interrupted sleep, not going home, figuring out how to pay the hospital bills on time, feelings of helplessness and a whole gamut of emotions.
It was all just too much for me to handle.
I had my personal struggles on the side along with all these.
My critical medication for depression was changing at the middle of all these and the fear of relapse was very real.
We also learned the news that we were not approved for the third time with our home loan with a bank. My husband and I had to attend to these while making sure we were present for dad.
The happy vacation I should have with my husband has turned into my worst nightmare.
If I had not recognized my tell-tale signs, even my relationship with my husband had been strained because of the undue stress I was experiencing.
People have been telling me God’s timing was good that Randy was here when this all happened.
But why does he need to sacrifice everything for our family?
I am hurting. Deeply wounded. Deeply traumatized. I want to be angry but I could not. I am protecting my mental and emotional health. I need to reserve a little love for myself because I cannot care from an empty cup.
I am hanging on. I know Jesus knows my heart. Whether I come from a place of joy or sadness or anger, I know Jesus will meet me where I am.